Confronted by mortality: time to face death anxiety

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"Most of us ignore for as long as we can the fact that we all die someday. But what if we thought about death regularly, as a way of appreciating life and living it to the fullest?"

Denise Cullen

Confronting mortality: why contemplating death changes how you think

If death is the final taboo, it might not be for much longer. Over the last few years, there has been an increasing effort to promote conversations about death and dying, both in the home, in more public settings, and online. 


For example, death cafes, first launched in Switzerland in 2004, have spread around the world, enabling people to speak about their fears over cake and coffee.


Our reluctance to talk about death is often taken as evidence that we are afraid of facing our own mortality and therefore suppress thoughts about it. However, there is little direct evidence to support that we are.

When confronting mortality what’s worse: the death of a loved one or facing your own death?

Judging by studies using questionnaires, we seem more bothered by the prospect of losing our loved ones than we do about dying ourselves. Such studies also show that we worry more about the dying process – the pain and loneliness involved, for example – than about the end of life itself. 


In general, when confronted by mortality, when we are asked if we are afraid to die, most of us deny it and report only mild levels of anxiety about mortality. The minority who report high levels of anxiety about mortality are even considered psychologically abnormal – thanatophobic – and recommended for treatment.


On the other hand, our tendency to report only low levels of death anxiety might be a result of our reluctance to admit to our fear, to others, and to ourselves. Based on this hypothesis, social psychologists have, for almost 30 years now, examined the social and psychological effects of being confronted by mortality. In over 200 experiments, individuals have been instructed to imagine dying.


The first study of this kind was conducted on US municipal court judges, who were asked to set bonds for an alleged sex worker in a hypothetical scenario. On average, judges who were confronted with their mortality beforehand set a much higher bail than those who were not confronted – $455 versus $50. Since then, many other effects have been found among groups, including the general population in many different countries.


Besides making us more punitive, thinking about facing your own mortality also increases our nationalistic bias, makes us more prejudiced against other racial, religious, and age groups, and leads to other such parochial attitudes. Taken together, these dozens of studies show that being reminded of death strengthens our ties to the groups we belong to, to the detriment of those who are different from us.

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Reminders of death also affect our political and religious beliefs in interesting ways. On the one hand, they polarise us: political liberals become more liberal while conservatives become more conservative. Similarly, religious people tend to assert their beliefs more fervently, while nonreligious people disavow them more.


On the other hand, these studies have also found that thinking about death tempts us all – religious or otherwise – towards more religious belief in subtle, perhaps unconscious ways. And when the reminder of death is sufficiently powerful and when participants are not mindful of their prior political commitments, liberals and conservatives tend to endorse conservative ideas and candidates. Some researchers claim this could explain the US political shift right after 9/11.

What do the results mean when it comes to mortality?

But why does the prospect of death make us more punitive, conservative, and religious?


According to many theorists, reminders of death compel us to seek immortality. Many religions offer literal immortality, but our secular affiliations – such as our nation-states and ethnic groups – can provide symbolic immortality. These groups and their traditions are a part of who we are, and they outlive us. 


Defending our cultural norms can boost our sense of belonging, and being more punitive against individuals who violate cultural norms – such as sex workers – is a symptom of this.


Consistent with this interpretation, researchers have also found that reminders of death and mortality increase our desire for fame and for children, both commonly associated with symbolic immortality. It turns out that we do want to be immortalized through our work and our DNA.


When asked, we do not seem, perhaps not even to ourselves, to fear death. Nor would we guess that facing your own mortality and thinking about death would have such widespread effects on our social attitudes. But there are limits to our introspective powers.


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We are notoriously bad at predicting how we will feel or behave in some future scenario, and we are similarly bad at working out why we feel the way we do or even why we have behaved a certain way. So, whether we realize it or not, it seems that when facing your own mortality, bringing death to the surface of our minds is to open Pandora’s box.


So what should we make of these new efforts to demystify death and dying through difficult conversations? It is hard to say. Facing your own mortality in our imaginations, private and public, might make us all more punitive and prejudiced, as the research found. But then perhaps we get these negative effects precisely because we are unaccustomed to thinking and talking about death. These negative effects may lessen or dissipate if confronting mortality becomes more common.


In exposure therapy, carefully exposing patients to the source of their anxiety – an object, an animal, or even a memory – reduces their fear. In the same way, perhaps this most recent taboo-breaking trend will inoculate us psychologically and make us more robust in the face of death.

"Understanding that we will all die someday is not morbid, but liberating, as it frees us from being enslaved to the less important things in life."

Rabbi Benjamin Blech

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